I'm of a mind that 'online communities' don't exist, but are a replacement for something that's missing in a person's offline live, even more so if they defend the 'online community' to a fault. I'm not here for the faceless puppets, I'm here for the game and the fact that I'm here should not be mistaken for me welcoming the questionable opportunity to talk to other people. Far from it, really.
The people I care for are the people I can touch. Everybody else is background noise and their feelings and opinions moot; afterall I won't lose any sleep over any one of the people in this community not being here tomorrow, which as I'm aware off, is a likewise carried sentiment should the tables be turned.
Cumbaya is an idé-fixe, a shallow coating of rainbowpaint that is as devoid of character as the people that embody it, and nothing but lip-service to those that moderate it. You only see a nice community thus, because you have the power to ban. Nothing more, nothing less.
Brutal, but honest. To an extent I side with it, though there's a handful of friends online who I would say I've developed the warm and fuzzies for over the years, but I emphasise - years, the whole nebulous community thing is mostly a construct, whether it's beneficial or not is entirely up to the participants. Currently it's been balkanised and well, it makes what is said feel very valid, at least as regards this community. Which is somewhat saddening, but life goes on.