Because whatever some hardliners on the PvP front say for many, I'd even go so far as to say the majority of, pvp friendly players playing in Open isn't about 'lulz pew pew'. It's about having a meaningful experience in E: D
which includes piracy and bounty hunting just as much as it does trading - with all the inherent player driven risk that that a galaxy such as that entails. Many PvP friendly players are also happy to
not shoot people! Many also want to make friends and form peaceful alliances, or just trade, or to become a force to protect and bring law to the lawless parts of the galaxy too! I know, stunning, isn't it? But what you seem to be suggesting is that every one of us pick up sticks and carry ourselves off to a private group, because it might upset a certain lobby of players who dearly want to see any form of unexpected PvP scenario branded tantamount to actual verbal or emotional abuse of a human being?
Anyway moving on somewhat..
Now this bit is important.
Players playing as pirates and even murderers
are not doing anything wrong and are playing the role they play in the open game as currently intended. You don't have to like it but that's a fact. Not just my opinion. It's the developers' opinion too, which means it actually has some credibility - and at the risk of repeating myself again here is the developer stand on what entails griefing.
https://forums.frontier.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7261&page=10&p=147803&viewfull=1#post147803
It even has specifics on piracy and murderous gameplay. Note how it points out fairly clearly that in most situations
they are not considered griefing and in fact are considered legitimate forms of play.
Likewise Solo and group are mentioned as entirely legitimate alternative avenues to take if you want to limit your in game interaction with other players.
This is also a legitimate and acceptable form of play.
So basically what we have here is an ideological difference of opinion where one fairly intractible group wants open play as it is intended to die because they don't like being inconvenienced and consider all forms of PvP outside pre arranged contact anti-social. Some more reasonable people in this group have formed a PvE only private group, and good for them. But they still have their own share of undesireables.
You see, an extreme part of this group wants to push the idea that all those with a more accepting stance towards PvP are probably 14 year old rabid ADHD sufferers who like nothing more than making people upset. Many of them pop onto discussion boards like this and make these sweeping generalisations about 'griefers', or make comments along the lines of 'PvPers should get lost and go scrap amongst themselves' or 'PvPers will end up lonely and they deserve to'. These players are generally trolls and are only making things worse. We should ignore them like any other troll. They don't want to contribute in any meaningful way and just want to stir people up. These kinds of trolls are different to the usual, as they feel they have some kind of moral superiority, and they probably don't even consider themselves trolls, even as they're posting snide baiting comments on any thread that even dares to suggest Open play could involve PvP and not be the cesspit of violence they claim it already is*.
An extreme group on the other side want to paint all those opposed to PvP or with any grievance towards it as PvE carebears and mock them whilst making asinine threats against them as if doing so will win them kudos. These guys are trolls and are only making things worse. We should ignore them like any other troll. They don't actually want to contribute to the debate in any meaningful way and just want to stir people up. These trolls know they're trolls and revel in their belligerence. They're not very nice to be around but they do make such perfect poster boys for the other group of trolls to hold up as the image of all that is evil.
Both these groups of trolls bait and aggravate each other, then brandish the retorts of their counterparts as proof of the other lobby's ignorance and belligerence towards those they claim as peers. They derail any effort to make reasonable and constructive arguments towards the end of in game solutions to this legitimate course of gameplay known as piracy, and instead seek to do everything they can to undermine it's legitimacy, either by extolling a mass exodus away from 'the PvPer's which is only destructive in the end or by playing up to the worst stereotypes.
Another group wants broader gameplay with the possibility of PvP driven by other players, expected or otherwise. This group runs a broad gamut of people who might seek out or instigate pvp and those who are simply willing to defend themselves or enjoy the higher stakes of survival
whilst not actually being inclined to seek out and murder or rob other players in game. These open players are doing nothing wrong and don't deserve to be painted into this 'PvP exile island group' that seems to crop up fairly often. These players in all their varieties could easily exist amongst less combative players, and in all honesty they're the ones seeking out Open gameplay with the best and most positive intentions to make it what it could be. But until we stop listening to the trolls on both sides of this debate, this group isn't going to get much represenatation.
And that's a sad state of affairs.
*it isn't by the way