You're basically telling them to gitgud. LOL.
General / Off-Topic [Girlfriend Trouble] Whoops!
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You're basically telling them to gitgud. LOL.
He was meaning to find the next exploit, higher as in balance!
Sometimes. She does love Netflix, and our cat. Lol
I can't argue, she does more than I do. She goes to the gym (I don't), works full time (same as me, but earns more... Lol), I'm about to start teaching her to drive (DOOOOOOOM!), and once she can drive, she's going to carry on earning her private pilots license, to hopefully one day become a professional pilot. (Oh the joy when she had to do simulator training! Playing games again dear?)
And I still have no idea what I want to do.
I'll figure it out. Probably by the time I'm 93...
So its ok for her to want to be a terrestrial pilot but not for you to be Space pilot?
Interesting article
Some people are bad at committing to relationships because they're 'avoidantly attached'
https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/london-life/commit-relationships-avoidantly-attached-a3785851.html
Some people are bad at committing to relationships because they're 'avoidantly attached'
https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/london-life/commit-relationships-avoidantly-attached-a3785851.html
What?? I am sure i am misunderstanding this terribly...
Having taken the time to read all the comments I can come to no other conclusio than:
I BLAME TJ FOR ALL OF THIS.
It just has to be
I BLAME TJ FOR ALL OF THIS.
It just has to be
If you don’t have kids, move on. Plenty of others out there. Or stay single and buy a boat. If my wife ever gave me an ultimatum I would lose it. And she knows she would be gone. And the same for me to her. After 10 going on 11 years of marriage, people are who they are. Either accept them for that or move on. Life is to short for drama.
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This is a game forum.
So, we're all totally unbiased.
Displace, and replace. Find freedom and happiness.
This is a game forum.
So, we're all totally unbiased.
Displace, and replace. Find freedom and happiness.
Yeah. My reaction would be that something specific about gaming or a previous relationship around gaming is a key part of the issue here. For example if Cosmicspacehead loved to play with model railways, instead of gaming, would that be as much of a problem for his partner? So that needs to be talked about, why she has the gaming issue.
I'm still alive! And so is my PC.
All very surprising, really. Lol
Ok, so update time!
We had a long old chat, I said I like to play games to escape and relax, just like she likes to take baths (so many baths!) and listen to music. (She literally spends more time in the bath a week, than I do playing games!)
She actually understood, and it turns out she was just dramatising about the phedophiles thing. She just thinks I get addicted too easily and become weird.
Which makes sense because I used to do that, but not any more. I don't game from 10am to 4am on my days off like I used too when I was young. (I'm lucky if I can stay awake to midnight these days!)
She also thinks I shouldn't be playing games when I have more important stuff to do, like get a career, in something. Annoyingly, she makes valid points. Again.
So I am allowed to play games, but I just have to sort my life out first. Which is fair really.
I most definitely need a better job. So poor...
She's most annoyed I lied, and is pulling the whole "if you lied about this, you could lie about cheating, or anything!" card. And is completely ignoring the fact I HAVE NO FRIENDS. Lol
I don't particularly like anyone I work with, and I don't socialise outside of work. Also one woman is too much to deal with, I actually have no idea how people have two or more on the go... Sheesh. Lol
And most importantly....
I'll start with saying that really the most important stuff is what went before, or it should be. A 10 year relationship is not that easy to keep up in this day and age, and could indicate you both have something in-common that made it work this long, where most marriages these days do not last that long, so there is something important in that relationship for both of you? I've been in a +15 years relationship myself, and had another that went to 6 years, and many others that did not last anything like that. So when you do get a long one, it means something (good usually).
You should not have lied about gaming behind her back, BUT she did seemingly give you an unfair, and threatening, ultimatum, and that no doubt forced your hand to move to trying to hide what you were doing.
So really you probably should look to make some moves in terms of getting a better job of some kind, and while you go about that do let her know about how handy Flight Sims can be for her learning of her chosen profession. You should both be able to work out a way to allow the positives of gaming into your lives and focus on the real-world concerns.
Good luck Cmdr (and partner).
What you are saying sounds like an ultimatum to your wife LOL
My god ! you've torn my heart
A terrible ordeal that God has imposed on your daughter and on you in the life
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Can't rep you again, you know that?
So long story short, my girlfriend and I have been together like 10 years or something (I forget... Lol). She knew I loved gaming when we met, but has since been trying to stop me. No idea why I allowed this, but I did. Hey ho.
Anyhoo, about 4 years back, she basically gave me the ultimatum, stop playing games or move out. At the time, we'd just moved in together, so I couldn't afford to move out, not even with my parents (because I had 6 months rent to pay regardless...!).
So I said I'd stop. And I did, for a while. Tried to get used to watching boring TV. Didn't work. Brain needs stimulation!
So I started again. In secret!
What could possibly go wrong?
I hid everything on my PC, even kept my gamepad in the attic and got it out each time I needed it.
Even did a few upgrades without her noticing. Lol
I did pretty well, had some close calls, and my PC was insistent on giving it away as much as possible (saving screenshots, randomly trying to load steam, etc). Lol
But I kept it under wraps...
Up until about January this year.
My PC caught me out, and loaded steam with Windows (despite me telling it not too), and my girlfriend noticed. (Why does windows ignore everything you tell it!?)
BUSTED!
So, I confessed, that I'd only played them "a bit"...(1000 hours in ED.....
She mostly got over it, but kept insisting I stop playing.
Several arguements later, she once again gave me the ultimatum.
No idea why, but I agreed again, and cut out gaming for a few weeks.
So instead I watched videos of gaming... Lol
Then I got the itch for 3.0, and fancied starting my own video channel. So I did. Spent aggggeess making sure my video capture didn't stick videos in my video library, and triple checked it.
Perfectly hidden! *Selected hide file*... Lol
All has been good up until today, when I called her after work to decide dinner.... (she's been home all day watching TV no doubt, so obviously couldn't decide while I was at work...!)
My PC has randomly started saving screenshots, to my photos folder!
No idea why, or how, because it wasn't set to save them there. Nor have I purposely saved any screenshots!
But my girlfriend opened up our photo library to see lots of ED screenshots.
Well crap, busted again!
Now she insists she can't trust me, and all that crap, claims if I can hide games, I can hide cheating, or anything.
And I think she wants me to move out.
And to be honest, I'm getting fed up with her odd stance towards gaming in general. Her view is it's for kids or 40 year old phedophiles...
So we just had the most awkward conversation on the phone, which was mostly silence...then hung up.
But i just finished work, and I'd like to go home... But I don't know if I should, or just go to my parents.
If I go home, I'll get moaned at some more, and have to do the whole argument again, probably about 11 times. And not get dinner.
If I go to my parents, I'll have to explain why I'm there... Which is awkward.
But I'm hungry. So I need to go somewhere.
Hmmmmm... I also have images of my PC being thrown out the window...
Not sure what to do now...lol
Help?
CMDR Cosmic Spacehead
Being an outsider and a loner, who finds it easy to never be in a relationship, I find it hard to understand how one could love someone, who wants to take away something from you that you love.
What you describe to me is a horrible relationship.
In my view nothing good can come out of this in the long run.
She does not accept you the way you are, but wants something in her image. Something neutered and docile.
That is how it seems to me anyway.
But realize that I am a strange middle aged man who would never want to live in the same house with anyone
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Being an outsider and a loner, who finds it easy to never be in a relationship, I find it hard to understand how one could love someone, who wants to take away something from you that you love.
What you describe to me is a horrible relationship.
In my view nothing good can come out of this in the long run.
She does not accept you the way you are, but wants something in her image. Something neutered and docile.
That how it seems to me anyway.
But realize that I am a strange middle aged man who would never want to live in the same house with anyone
Oddly enough, I prefer to be alone. And so does she.
But when we're not fighting over silly things like games, or my farting habits, we actually get on quite well, laugh all the time, and generally insult everyone and everything together.
Still, I often wonder how nice it would be to live totally alone.
And so does she. And we tell eachother this. Lol
Oddly enough, I prefer to be alone. And so does she.
But when we're not fighting over silly things like games, or my farting habits, we actually get on quite well, laugh all the time, and generally insult everyone and everything together.
Still, I often wonder how nice it would be to live totally alone.
And so does she. And we tell eachother this. Lol
Sounds like moving in together wasn't the best decision when comes to healthy relationship.
(sorry)
Sounds like moving in together wasn't the best decision when comes to healthy relationship.
(sorry)
Probably not. But I never make good decisions!
Which often leads me to not making a decision at all. Which is usually worse.
Oddly enough, I prefer to be alone. And so does she.
But when we're not fighting over silly things like games, or my farting habits, we actually get on quite well, laugh all the time, and generally insult everyone and everything together.
Still, I often wonder how nice it would be to live totally alone.
And so does she. And we tell eachother this. Lol
Maybe you guys should try this
STRIFE SWAP Love Island meets Wife Swap as couples in crisis switch partners for reality show
The Seven Year Switch shows couples swapping partners to see if the grass is greener
https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/5704255/couples-in-crisis-trade-partners-in-a-shocking-new-tv-experiment/
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7 years!?
TV is so weird.
"We're having trouble, should be break up, or sort it?"
"God no, let's just swap wives for SEVEN FRIKKIN YEARS.... And broadcast it!"