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Leper Messiah

Leper Messiah
(yes I know there's only one "way" to never age!)

Up until septmeber last year I was doing ok at 47, a few aches and pains, nothing major healthwise. But in that September I don't know how but I managed to do "something" to my neck, first month was some of the worst pain I've ever had (granted worst I'd had before is migraines, ingrowing toenails and a bike crash with no major injuries), to add some misery on the first day of the neck pain I also did my lower back in so that spasmed away for a few days initially as well! I had an emergency Doc appointment but only with a Nurse, got some neck exercises and an appointment for an Xray. Xray only revealed general wear and tear. So bucket tonnes of painkillers were taken.

Into October and the neck pain lessened a bit but my left shoulder started to hurt (I couldn't sleep at all on my left side) and then I started getting pains down my left arm with pins and needles into the tip of my left thumb....back to Docs and on further examination the Xray revealed a trapped nerve (a bit late), so I had a 5 week wait for physio which went well, the neck pain lessened further, the shoulder was ok and the pins and needles in thumb went as well. Also diagnosed Vit D deficient after advice from physiotherapist to get a blood test at the Docs (I don't see much daylight with my social anxiety). Things "seemed" to be improving but in the new year I have been suffering from a n i g g ly (come on thats a PROPER word) pain above both eyes on and off, along with n i g gly pains in my temples and across my shoulders up both sides of my neck. I had my eyes retested as I thought it was eye strain, but new glasses havn't solved anything. I think I'm off to the Docs again soon.......

getting old really sucks. You young'uns enjoy things while you can, no one warned me how crap it was getting old....so I thought I'd do some warning.
 
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Chris Simon

Chris Simon
That time of year thou mayst in me behold
When yellow leaves, or none, or few, do hang
Upon those boughs which shake against the cold,
Bare ruined choirs, where late the sweet birds sang.
In me thou see’st the twilight of such day
As after sunset fadeth in the west;
Which by and by black night doth take away,
Death’s second self, that seals up all in rest.
In me thou see’st the glowing of such fire,
That on the ashes of his youth doth lie,
As the death-bed, whereon it must expire,
Consumed with that which it was nourish’d by.
This thou perceiv’st, which makes thy love more strong,
To love that well, which thou must leave ere long.

We had a saying among volleyballists - You're still young if different things ache, every day.
I, too have several pains that won't go away, now and it sucks but honestly, I don't miss being young. It was a struggle. And we're still alive. That has to count for something.
 
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Iskariot

Iskariot
Leper Messiah said:
(yes I know there's only one "way" to never age!)

Up until septmeber last year I was doing ok at 47, a few aches and pains, nothing major healthwise. But in that September I don't know how but I managed to do "something" to my neck, first month was some of the worst pain I've ever had (granted worst I'd had before is migraines, ingrowing toenails and a bike crash with no major injuries), to add some misery on the first day of the neck pain I also did my lower back in so that spasmed away for a few days initially as well! I had an emergency Doc appointment but only with a Nurse, got some neck exercises and an appointment for an Xray. Xray only revealed general wear and tear. So bucket tonnes of painkillers were taken.

Into October and the neck pain lessened a bit but my left shoulder started to hurt (I couldn't sleep at all on my left side) and then I started getting pains down my left arm with pins and needles into the tip of my left thumb....back to Docs and on further examination the Xray revealed a trapped nerve (a bit late), so I had a 5 week wait for physio which went well, the neck pain lessened further, the shoulder was ok and the pins and needles in thumb went as well. Also diagnosed Vit D deficient after advice from physiotherapist to get a blood test at the Docs (I don't see much daylight with my social anxiety). Things "seemed" to be improving but in the new year I have been suffering from a n i g g ly (come on thats a PROPER word) pain above both eyes on and off, along with n i g gly pains in my temples and across my shoulders up both sides of my neck. I had my eyes retested as I thought it was eye strain, but new glasses havn't solved anything. I think I'm off to the Docs again soon.......

getting old really sucks. You young'uns enjoy things while you can, no one warned me how crap it was getting old....so I thought I'd do some warning.
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Wait until you reach my age.
You will fondly remember those carefree days at 48.
 

Leper Messiah

Leper Messiah
Iskariot said:
Wait until you reach my age.
You will fondly remember those carefree days at 48.
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I'm sure I will, I didn't know being 47 would suck so much!!! I thought I'd at least get to 55-60 before this crap kicked in!!!


In all seriousness I do realise I'm still fortunate to be 47, alive and relatively healthy (I hope). I realise others have it much worse than me. Who knows, I may be alive when SC is released eh?
 

Jenner

I wish I was English like my hero Tj.
Jenner
Fading health sucks no matter the age. I've lost my mother and best friend from high school to cancer already, and my friend was only in his 30s. My wife has rheumatoid arthritis and she's not even 40 yet.

All you can do is make the most of the time you have and live each day to it fullest. Practice 'mindfullness', as they say in medication circles. Be present in the current moment and acknowlege your feelings (physical and mental) but don't dwell on them. It's easier said than done!
 
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Mo Ronik

Mo Ronik
Life seems a bit tough when you know you have more days behind you than in front of you. Be 62 in June and two days ago I had to crawl up under the kitchen sink in one of the remodels the missus and I are working on. To quote Dr. Smith "The pain!!! Ohhhh the pain!!!" Takes a few days now to heal up enough to get back to work and fortunately we're having a snow storm today so that's as good of an excuse not to leave the house as any. I can still do all the things I used to do, it just takes me a lot longer to do them.
 

Leper Messiah

Leper Messiah
Jenner said:
Fading health sucks no matter the age. I've lost my mother and best friend from high school to cancer already, and my friend was only in his 30s. My wife has rheumatoid arthritis and she's not evce 40 yet.

All you can do is make the most of the time you have and live each day to it fullest. Practice 'mindfullness', as they say in medication circles. Be present in the current moment and acknowlege your feelings (physical and mental) but don't dwell on them. It's easier said than done!
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So sorry to hear that Jenner, life can be really cruel at times. Lost my sister when I was 9. Excellent advice though, I do try and live in the moment as best I can and be grateful I'm still breathing. Just having a Victor Meldrew moment methinks!
 

Bob Lighthouse

Banned
Bob Lighthouse
I'm about the same age.
May I suggest, don't be a fatalistic wuss?

I don't know what your fitness/activity levels are like, but keeping moving and gaining/maintaining lean muscle mass will pay dividends down the line.
Great coaches can make all the difference in the world.

I've seen all manner of people make tremendous positive changes, to the benefit of everyone around them.


Find a coach/environment/community that will elevate you.

Eg

[video=youtube;fJGm8dpqquU]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJGm8dpqquU[/video]


Environment > motivation; for better or worse.

50 is the new 30.
I know a ton of people in their 50s-60s doing Ironmans, marathons, Jiu-jitsu, surfing, adventure races and so on.

Good luck!
There's a lot to enjoy out there!
 

Jenner

I wish I was English like my hero Tj.
Jenner
Bob Lighthouse said:
I'm about the same age.
May I suggest, don't be a fatalistic wuss?
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For many people it's not a question of motivation or of 'letting yourself go.' The people I lost to cancer didn't get cancer because they weren't hitting the gym every day. My friend who wasted away in a hospital bed for half a year couldn't pump iron to cure himself. My wife does yoga and eats well and jogs, but her auto-immune disease is still eating her joints from the inside.

Yes, we should all take better care of ourselves as it does indeed pay dividends. Sometimes, though, live just deals you a crappy a hand.
 
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Mo Ronik

Mo Ronik
If we didn't have this snow storm today we'd either be working or walking. The missus and I take regular walks up into town or around the neighborhood. When we're working I try to time it so we stop just before I hurt myself. We walked a lot more when we were in Australia so hopefully this upcoming move will lead to a more healthy life. There will be less snow.
 

Patrick_68000

Patrick_68000
Look at pictures and read articles about the "Progeria" (Hutchinson-Gilford syndrome). I find this disease dramatic

We will be glad to have had a few years of youth.

:)
 
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JetsonRING

JetsonRING
I tell young people that there is a curve to life and you must stay ahead of the curve. When we are young boys, just when we decide girls are "yucky" and we think we understand them, suddenly they aren't yucky anymore and we have to learn a whole new set of social skills. Right at the point we become comfortable with our own bodies we start sprouting hair in weird places, we start to stink and have to deal with shaving, deodorants, etc. We finally settle on a hairstyle that is just right for us and our hair starts falling out or turning grey. We think at some point that we understand love just to find that well, love hurts.

We spend years in schools just to find out when we graduate that the learning has just begun. A surgeon can spend thirty years perfecting their craft only to find their hands have begun to shake. We learn physical skills like baseball, football, racing, whatever and just when we get really good at it our joints begin to hurt, our eyesight fails. We become educated men and women, earn doctorates, become experts in our respective fields and just when we begin to feel we are experts, that we have a handle on life our memory, our cognitive function begins to fail.

I do not mention any ages, no numbers because it happens at different times for different people. There are octogenarian iron-man competitors and teenagers going grey at the temples. There are as many Kindergarten prodigies as there are middle-aged fools.

There is a curve to life, stay ahead of it. Learn to dance as a young child, learn to play an instrument, to read music. Choose your first career in first grade or even Kindergarten and work toward that, if you do not know by the time you finish elementary school what you want to be after high-school then you are already behind the curve. You are probably not going to have a single, life-long career, more like three or four careers and you need to be prepared for that.

It is up to parents to make their children aware of this at a very, very young age and to encourage their children to excel, not just in reading, writing and 'rithmetic but also in sport, music, art and whatever else their children show a talent for, or even an interest in.

When Tiger Woods was a two year old toddler, his father put a putter into his hands, evaluated his talent and began training him to be one of the world's great golfers. The world's great musicians, the best Olympic gymnasts start training at home while they are still toddlers. "Though the day be long, life is short".

Don't ever tell your kids "There is plenty of time for you to decide". There isn't.
 
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Robin of Spiritwood

Robin of Spiritwood
Good to hear you're feeling better, OP.

Aside from the ( admittedly serious) bodily failures, I rather enjoy getting older.
You see things more clearly with some perspective. Most people treat you a bit better. Opinions carry more weight.
Also, you suffer less from doing stupid things now.

Nuns live longer than giant muscular wrestlers. They have less accumulated damage, and better internal chemistry. Recalibrating activity to something more sensible is something we all have to do.
 
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