What if you're not at their table though and they drag you over by force to play at their table and you have 2 cards and they have 7 ?
Am I to just sit there and let them have their fun while my game goes back to where I started 2 hours ago ?
I think we differ in the definition of 'table'. If you are in the same instance you are at the same table. Others are not automatically obliged to be nice to you, it is your responsibility to make sure you are safe, and if someone outsmarts you by turning your contest into one which favours them, you should accept the loss.
The last time I was popped by another player was in a CZ, that last bastion of legitimate, meaningful PvP. They were justified in shooting at me, they did not need to explain their actions, and they were ultimately a considerably better pilot than I was. It didn't occur to be to combat log, it did occur to me to try to win the CZ scenario any way I could (I also failed at this but I evaded the player for some time).
Once I finally saw the rebuy screen & popped back up in the local dock I sent a friend request & sent them a "gg" (Good Game). Think of it as like an o7 Cmdr, it's just a way to be polite & give congratulations, just as you would if someone beat you at cards or chess. There is such a thing as a bad winner of course, up to you how you respond to that.
But that player that popped me was just there for fun, and deliberately chose the opposing side just to have some PvP action, because they were bored. I understand, I placate, I explain why I'm fighting this particular war & they agree to help me win the war. And I did