You can always choose not to take things personally.All due respect, and no offense intended, but I do believe the posts you referred to kinda prove otherwise...
It's a forum phenomenon, for sure, can't see any of this sort of communication taking place in person at, say, a LAN party over coffee and crullers... but it can very well matter how a message is delivered, it's framing and implied intent, even sentence structure or choice of syntax. We don't see faces in forums, we only see text. And text is taken at face value.
Lists make it easy to keep track of what others are missing and then show them. It also makes it easier to track your own mistakes or misconceptions. When you say "the posts you referred to kinda prove otherwise", I would naturally think "he just skimmed them". It results in a deadlock we could never escape. If you had listed them one by one on the other hand, we could talk about them normally. Using that style in a forum post may be emotionless, but trying to read aggression into the absence of emotion doesn't make any sense. And you say it yourself, you can't see any faces. Then why are you trying to visualise them?
Why don't we talk about how to write a script that contains EDDI in separate Voiceattack directories, so it doesn't mess with Voiceattack when you don't play Elite?