you mean this one?
https://forums.frontier.co.uk/threads/first-time-in-vr-holy-mary-mother-of-god.561954/post-8875118
...doesn't help much, from what I understand you there you're saying get the valve index - which is a) expensive and b) not available, and everything else is either crap or made by oculus...
The new HP is supposed to be cool, though it is shipping only to pre-orders customers at this time, I think. Full release is imminent, though. But it's twice the price of a Quest 2.
Like you, I have historically prided myself on never having a single social media account of any kind. It's the worst thing to happen to humanity in history, if you ask me. I have 4 kids aged 15 to 28, and the amount of drama and misery social media has brought into my home over the last 15 years is beyond belief. Further, I'm a software engineer who has built web applications since the 90's -- after being online all day for work, the LAST thing I want to do in the evening is browse the wall of somebody who I once distantly knew in high school to see what they're up to today. I absolutely couldn't care less, nor am I in the least bit inclined to share with the world my daily activities and photos of myself from dive bars and vacations.
That having been said, I broke down and created a Facebook account to register my Quest. I VERY strongly considered using my wife's account, but was worried she'd somehow share something and I didn't want to mess up her settings or anything. I can say that account creation is completely painless. Takes only a few minutes, and you're not required to share much info at all. I gave them a junk email account but did use my real phone number (which I guard like Fort Knox), so that I could pass the 2FA. I set absolutely EVERYTHING to "private and never to be shared" and I am not discoverable. No photos, no favorites, no details, no notifications and definitely no friends. I am the Keyser Söze of Facebook.
It was worth it. Spend 5 minutes in the cockpit in VR and I'm positive you'll agree.