Its not a double standard- popping a new player for nothing is not the same as fighting over cargo. Hence why for most of this thread I've said for the majority of encounters I'm not fussed, except for Powerplay and piracy.
It is a double standard.
You, apparently, just can't see it - or are unwilling to admit it.
Personally, I'd say both actions are unethical but, y'know... it's the rules of the game.
Gotta say, I've probably annoyed PvPers once in a while by menu-logging.
If I get engaged in combat then I'll see it through but I do sometimes fly in Open for a specific reason and then I'll head over to, say, Jameson and I'll see a player FdL heading toward me, remember I'm in Open and menu log.
If people don't like that, tough.