I'm definitely a weak pilot, but working on improving!I can't tell how the present day quota is. But in old times, the forums also was like "gankers are all great and social people, just looking for a challenge", while my in-game experience was just the opposite: mostly weak pilots, looking for an easy target and lacking any ability to communicate. Most boring ever.
I've just picked up VoiceAttack and am using it to make sending communications easier, because I agree with you - communication makes the game more fun. It increases the challenge, too, when you give someone "fair warning" of your intention to do their in-game spaceship harm.
Not trying to contradict what you're saying, just trying my best to be the change I would like to see in ganking. As weird as that sounds!