Player owned stations when?
I want a gold station with pure white lights and only docking for the largest, most expensive ships.
Sidewinders will be shot on sight.
That will never happen. Players will not build or own stations but a player can influence the building of a station by finding an uninhabited system with useful resources that a faction would like to utilise, they will, once you have returned with the data to them, send a team of station builders out to colonise the system and build a station and you can help in its manufacture by providing supplies etc.
Read the DDF on the subject. Note: this might not actually be implemented for some time yet.