Well, as Solo people are happy, Private Groups are happy - it's the Open players being the problem - so by your logic, we should just remove Open and make Solo the default.
Not insulting!? Do you read what you write? Do you understand the words you use?
"encourage people that are
afraid of it"
afraid adjective (FEAR)
A2
[after verb] feeling fear, or
feeling worry about the
possible results of a
particular situation:
He was/
felt suddenly afraid.
I've always been afraid of
flying/
heights/
spiders.
She was afraid for her
children (=
feared that they might be
hurt).
[+ to infinitive] Don't be afraid to say what you
think.
[+ (that)]
She was afraid (that) he might be
upset if she told him.
You made the accusation that people are scared to play the game how you play, without any regard that they may want to play their way, not your way... kind of the tag line for that game if I recall.
So why not drop the pretense, drop the arrogance and just admit you don't want others to enjoy this game how they choose and should just be your personal entertainment - as that's what you're asking for.