I am 75yrs old, have played Elite since it started in 2016 I think it was . Other than a few weeks at the beginning when I joined Mobius for a while I have always played in "Open" I got ganked a few times until I figured out combat. Like most I started on trade until I got enough credits for a Python and then made a fortune from mining. Did all the stuff required to engineer my ships.
Ground out the Federation requirements for the Federal Corvette and never really looked back after that. Went on a few Exploration trips but got bored with the sameness in one ship. When Fleet Carriers were introduced I had enough credits to get one. Best decision I made as it allowed me to really go on an exploration trip with all my ships to avoid boredom and lack of company.
Shortly after that, about 2yrs ago I set out from the bubble on a long term exploration trip to SagX based on exploration and mining for Tritium fuel and other mining goodies. Reached SagX and was finally able to buy the suits and equipment needed for Biological scanning and now I have a couple of FC jumps to Colonia where I shall likely sell most of the 11000 tons minus the tritium of goodies in my hold and see how i have fared with the First Footfall and Bio/Geo finds I have aboard.
Will likely hang around Colonia for a while until I get itchy feet and then probably slowly make my way back to the bubble again from there. Although I am pretty healthy at my age I am not sure I will make it. So, if a few years from now anyone finds a lost unmanned FC called Orlandine that can be my last resting place

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Although piling in the hours the first few years and also having periods where I didn't play at all I now play around 1-2hrs a day. In Combat I am classed Dangerous. I am Elite II in Trade and Elite V in Exploration. I believe that people like the OP have just picked the wrong game. Personally I see EDO as a blank canvas in which the player can create his own story.
If I do eventually make it back to the bubble I look forward to all the wonderful new stuff introduced in the last couple of years to learn. Players calling EDO boring lack imagination to my thinking.