OP, the message to you from FD and most of the posters here is that you are not wanted as a customer. Your choice is either spend more time googling and learning how to play exactly the way the devs want you to play, or quit the game.
There is no middle ground. There is no varied difficulty level. There is no room for beginners or casuals or people who will just never get the required skill level because they just can't. The decision has been made by the devs and the community that people like that simply should not be permitted to play a space sim.
Sorry to bring you the bad news. I completely sympathize with you. You just want to play a little. You spent a lot of time grinding jobs you probably didn't enjoy to try a new ship and once you got it you thought you could enjoy it for a while. You were. Then the game changed and you lost it all simply because you are not "leet" enough.
Don't take it personally. It's just bad game design and typical elitist internet bull from the community.
Find another game that doesn't have such a high death penalty and that is more fun and tolerates or even, heaven forbid, encourages casual players. Not everyone is cut out to be an elite pretend space fighter pilot
All the best.