@OP Yes! Thanks for posting this.
Too often do forum people go to the extreme ends of an opinion, which doesn't really help anyone understand where this game came from and where it's heading, and give anyone an objective view of whether or not they will really enjoy it (like I do).
Is this game for everyone? Certainly not! But "It's not for you" is not for you to say. All we can really do is provide the overriding vision of the game - and how far it's gone toward reaching it.
Elite: Dangerous is a wide open sandbox in a bit of a dark future where individuals own ships and deal with the harshness of space and very strict interstellar civilizations. It doesn't really hold your hand, many lessons are learned in the hardest way possible. Didn't ask for clearance to dock - get destroyed! Don't know how to avoid an interdiction - get interdicted, then destroyed! Didn't think to leave some money aside from that one last milk run - get interdicted, destroyed, and lose all your progress in one terrible moment!
This is the harsh, challenging galaxy that some of us cherish and thrive in! And we don't want to see the harshness change (much). But many of us recognize that in an information vacuum it's really frustrating to learn anything - this is game behavior that all of us want to see changed! We want you to be able to know what you did wrong, in a clearer way, so that next time you start in your sidewinder with 100 credits, you know how to handle earning your first million (and how to not lose it again!).
Docking is a great example of how this hard galaxy works correctly. Fly into a star port without clearance? A FINE appears and a timer counting down to your destruction. You IMMEDIATELY know that you messed up and haul butt out of there to correct your mistake and recover from a bruised . Linger too long, and you get destroyed - but you still know where you effed up. Next time, and every time afterwards, asking for clearance will be stapled to your brain.
An example of how this hard galaxy fails to instruct is when you get interdicted for the first time. There's this blue cross-hair that rushes off the screen and some graph or something in the middle and the sound changes and you have no idea what is actually happening until you pop out of supercruise with a big message "FSD Failure!". Before you can ask "why did my FSD fail..." some guy is shooting at you! Is it an NPC? Another PC? Am I being Pirated or Griefed? But before you can answer any of those questions your dead. The only lesson you learned is - there's something called Interdictions that causes your FSD to fail and you're not sure what to do about them, but they hurt a lot!