That's where I just disagree. I haven't done pursued any specific material since a long time. I have engineered two ships without doing any of that, but only using what I had stored away and/or visiting a material trader.
My experience on the V1 engineers was EXACTLY how you describe it. And it's really a challenge to not use impolite words when describing the OLD system. Your point of view on how the system WAS is 100% valid and I completely agree that it was like that. But my personal experience by now is just so very different from how it was in old times. It feels completely different, I don't grind for materials. I just pick up what crosses my way and use or trade it later.
And because my experience has so vastly changed when engineers were reworked, I really think you should give the game another chance. No, I can not guarantee you that your experience will be better. But I think there's the chance that you will find the system to be much more manageable than in old times.
So in the worst case, you spent a little time in the game again, of which you still frequent the forum. You learn that you still don't like the system after the change, but then can give well founded feedback, based on your actual experience of the new system. In a better case, you find that the game is enjoyable for you again, have fun playing again and we can together rant about other things of the game which we consider to be a problem.