More like, "it's not what you say, but the way you go about saying it" is how you go about getting infractions. If your post content is snide, disrespectful, rude, harassing, etc, you're going to get the wrath of the moderation team - no matter if you're a PVP'er or PVE'er or even a RP'er. There are moderators on these forums that PVP, and PVE - contrary to popular statements posted out there!
First of all, I owe no obligation of respect towards you, or whoever else deems it appropriate to demand it of me on your moderation team.
While I can agree direct threats and harassment serve no purpose but of malice as I have received many of them myself over the years preaching the PVP way on this forum. However, some developers who I shall not name because of some of your ridiculous abusive forum rules doesn't seem to have a problem to belittle some members of the community on their own teamspeak during a live event, as far as I know, on top of that, you have moderators who don't seem to have a problem with promoting combat logging, what a strange coincidance isn't it?
So again, while I agree with you that direct threats and harassment are un-warranted. I will however, disagree to the sentiment of Frontier and the moderation team intolerance of any commentary that relates to the character of a PVP discussion on these very forums always seem to lead to conflicts and even the promotion of combat logging from certain "few individuals" are unpunished. It directly conflicts with the position of the company and an ulterior statement regarding "combat logging". I find it rather amusing!
If the face of one of your major gaming projects offers no insight of themselves towards your demographic player base, how on earth can you expect to gain any means of trust, value, and in your case, most importantly, respect?
In fact, when met with opposition on more of a developer leveled approach, not only did some of your developers, but several other members of the moderation team responded with horrible vitriol and such succinct disdain it would be impossible to separate from their exposed character. When you consider who these comments were aimed at, community members in case you forgot, which I doubt, are also customers and probably people who pledged their money to help you build the foundation of this game deserve the same respect as everybody else. But I digress.
I've picked this game up a few years ago to tackle on the PVP aspect of the game, I was sold on "Blaze your own trail". That was never delivered to it's full potential due to constant disconnections, combat loggers, cheaters and other bugs that have been there since the days of kickstarter and although arguing over those particular semantics would assauge some personal still yet, lingering concerns. That time has passed and would be beating a long dead horse considering your vision for the game is crystal clear and will probably never change for the better.
A few friends of mine have lost out on a couple of hundred of hours dealing with the Engineers fiasco. That quickly enhanced my jaded views of the design decisions of the current development team, not just David Braben and his "dream vision" but the current ideas are far from the original concept that was sold to us.
While this may be viewed as objective I'm sure, dealing with combat loggers, broken piracy (the most prominent PVP feature being dead) and now crime & punishment as lead us to believe that some of the developers wish to castrate the PVP community. In my opinion, these have been the most neglected features in this game over the last years. Which may not seem as problematic for most players or even the developers. However, the emergent content created from it in the past years has been the best experience of any video games I have ever played and to me it would be insane to past on such high potential gameplay value but I can only speak for myself.
I have several more gripes to go on about, but I've digressed too far as it is. My point is, there are several things that have happened or have not happened over the years to leave players such as my self with an unshakable sour taste in their mouth. For me, Elite Dangerous has been ruined since the Engineers update was released and the very foundation of this installment arose from lies, deceit, and smoke and mirrors after hearing about it for the first time.
Not to mention the horrendous communication between the community managers/developers and their player base. Which has become too common over the years. Granted you have been trying to improve it by opening the testing servers to "test" new content and doing live stream, I still have little to no faith in the future of this game if you keep following the same short spur excitment path in the way you create new content.
So I write all of this to say, no, you will not demand an ounce of un-earned respect of me, not for you, not the development team, surely not the moderation team, nor anyone else on the simple bases of your will for it to be so. If your want you playerbase to love your game and respect you, learn to respect them first.
Respect is earned. Period.